Surrogacy is an arrangement, often supported by a legal agreement, whereby a woman (Surrogate Mother) agrees to become pregnant and give birth to a child for another person (Intended Parent) who is or will become the parent of the child.
Surrogacy includes 5 main parties:
– Single men who want a child
– Single women who cannot carry a child to term themselves
– Same-sex couples
– Heterosexual couples struggling with infertility and the inability to carry a child
Surrogacy is of two types: traditional and gestational.
Surrogacy may be Commercial or Altruistic, depending upon whether the surrogate receives financial reward for her pregnancy:
Altruistic Surrogacy – It is considered altruistic if surrogate receives no compensation beyond reimbursement of her medical and other pregnancy related expenses along with the insurance coverage for her.
Step 1: Selecting Surrogacy Professionals
Once you have made up your mind and want to continue with the surrogacy journey, you must determine your goals, expectations, and the professionals you are willing to work with. Basically, the first step is to look for IVF Clinic, a surrogacy agency and sometimes an attorney if the agency doesn’t have one for you:
At this stage, you will also decide about basic aspects, including whether you need donor sperm and/or eggs, whether you know the surrogate or need matching services.
Read more about “How to Choose a Surrogacy Agency?” here
Step 2: Selecting an Egg Donor
Intended Parents can either bring their own egg donor or select one from a clinic’s or agency’s database. In either case, the candidate must pass a thorough medical screening. Their medical records should be reviewed by a reproductive endocrinologist before being accepted into the donor program.
Read more about “How to Choose an Egg Donor?” here
Step 3: Selecting a Surrogate Mother (Carrier)
Similar to the previous step, Intended Parents can either choose a family member or a friend as their surrogate or go through an agency. The surrogate candidate will undergo medical, mental health, financial and criminal background screening. A profile is created for both Intended Parents and surrogate mothers by the agency. When the time comes to make a match, they will try to match you with a surrogate whose surrogacy plans are similar to yours.
Read more about “How to Choose a Surrogate Mother (Carrier)?” here
Step 4: Signing Contracts
All parties involved in this step of the process will have their own attorney representing their own interests. Before beginning the embryo transfer process, it is required that each party agrees to the terms of the contract and signs it.
Attorneys must have a license in the US state where the surrogate and the egg donor live.
To this end, each party will review the terms of the contract carefully beforehand:
Only if both parties agree to the terms and conditions described on the contract and sign it, you will be able to start the medical process, a phase in which you will work closely with the fertility clinic you agreed upon at the beginning.
Step 5: Undergoing The Medical Process
At this stage, two steps are crucial—fertilization and embryo transfer.
Before the fertilization, the intended mother or the egg donor in case she cannot use her own eggs has to take medications in order to stimulate the ovaries for the production of multiple eggs. Once mature, they will be collected through follicle puncture (Eggs Retrieval).
Before the Embryo Transfer, the Surrogate Mother (carrier) has to take medications in order to prepare the endometrium for it to be receptive at the moment of the embryo transfer.
The surrogate will take a pregnancy test about 15 days before the transfer. Normally, surrogates start receiving their compensation in installments, monthly allowance, and prenatal care once the fetal heartbeat has been confirmed by ultrasound.
During the pregnancy, surrogates have to visit the clinic on a regular basis for blood tests and ultrasounds in order to check if everything is progressing as expected. If you agree so with the IPs, you can share your pregnancy journey with them.
Step 6: Pregnancy, Birth & Parental Rights
When the desired pregnancy is achieved, it is your program coordinator’s job to support both you and your surrogate and to prepare you for the birth of your child. Normally, intended parents wish to join the surrogate at the hospital experience it first hand.
Once the baby is born, it is crucial that you pay attention to all the necessary documents that you must complete and file to ensure that parental rights are properly established. It is your attorney’s responsibility to secure proper court orders, passports, legal documentation…
Intended parents living outside the United States have to ensure that every legal document required in their home country is properly filed. Checking what are the requirements in your departure country to register the birth of a child born abroad is a key step to a successful surrogacy journey.
When everything has finished, it is common among surrogates and intended parents to remain connected over the years and maintain a close relationship during the child’s life.